A List of “Men’s Rights” Issues That Feminism Is Already Working On
Feminists do not want you to lose custody of your children. The assumption that women are naturally better caregivers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not like commercials in which bumbling dads mess up the laundry and competent wives have to bustle in and fix it. The assumption that women are naturally better housekeepers is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to make alimony payments. Alimony is set up to combat the fact that women have been historically expected to prioritize domestic duties over professional goals, thus minimizing their earning potential if their “traditional” marriages end. The assumption that wives should make babies instead of money is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to get raped in prison. Permissiveness and jokes about prison rape are part of rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want anyone to be falsely accused of rape. False rape accusations discredit rape victims, which reinforces rape culture, which is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be lonely and we do not hate “nice guys.” The idea that certain people are inherently more valuable than other people because of superficial physical attributes is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to have to pay for dinner. We want the opportunity to achieve financial success on par with men in any field we choose (and are qualified for), and the fact that we currently don’t is part of patriarchy. The idea that men should coddle and provide for women, and/or purchase their affections in romantic contexts, is condescending and damaging and part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be maimed or killed in industrial accidents, or toil in coal mines while we do cushy secretarial work and various yarn-themed activities. The fact that women have long been shut out of dangerous industrial jobs (by men, by the way) is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to commit suicide. Any pressures and expectations that lower the quality of life of either gender are part of patriarchy. The fact that depression is characterized as an effeminate weakness, making men less likely to seek treatment, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be viewed with suspicion when you take your child to the park (men frequently insist that this is a serious issue, so I will take them at their word). The assumption that men are insatiable sexual animals, combined with the idea that it’s unnatural for men to care for children, is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want you to be drafted and then die in a war while we stay home and iron stuff. The idea that women are too weak to fight or too delicate to function in a military setting is part of patriarchy.
Feminists do not want women to escape prosecution on legitimate domestic violence charges, nor do we want men to be ridiculed for being raped or abused. The idea that women are naturally gentle and compliant and that victimhood is inherently feminine is part of patriarchy.
Feminists hate patriarchy. We do not hate you.
If you really care about those issues as passionately as you say you do, you should be thanking feminists, because feminism is a social movement actively dedicated to dismantling every single one of them. The fact that you blame feminists—your allies—for problems against which they have been struggling for decades suggests that supporting men isn’t nearly as important to you as resenting women. We care about your problems a lot. Could you try caring about ours?
Intersectionality described in 4 minutes.
Utterly brilliant. Just…goosebumps…
Damn. I don’t even have the words.
LGBT and Black oppression y’all….
This will take 4 minutes of your life and make you a better person
and then there are those of us who are both black and queer.
and then we fight for our right to speak for both sides.
This is amazing.
Some brilliant female scientists you may not know much (or anything) of.
Aglaonike (2nd century BCE), was an astronomer from Ancient Greece during the fifth century. She is on the list of first astronomers who was a woman. She was notorious for being able to predict the accurate time and locations of lunar eclipses. However, because she was a woman her contributions were not believed to be a scientific ability.
People often began to believe she was a witch and gave her the name of the witch of Thessaly. Aglaonike has been mentioned in writings of Pluto, Plutarch, and Apollonius of Rhodes.
Elena Cornaro Piscopia (1646–1684), Italian mathematician was probably the first woman in the world to receive a Doctor of Philosophy degree; she is definitely the first woman to have been recorded doing so.
She was a respected and noted philosopher and theologist, although she never received a degree in the latter because the church would not allow it.
Philippa Fawcett (1868-1948) When she placed first in the Cambridge mathematical tripos in 1890, she forced a reassessment of nineteenth-century belief in the inferiority of the “weaker sex.”Rosalyn Sussman Yalow (1921–) became the second woman to ever win the Nobel Prize in medicine, 1977. Her achievement was the development of RIA, an application of nuclear physics in clinical medicine that makes it possible for scientists to use radiotropic tracers to measure the concentration of hundreds of pharmacologic and biologic substances in the blood and other fluids of the human body and in animals and plants.She invented this technique in 1959 to measure the amount of insulin in the blood of adult diabetics.
Cultures that endorse modesty and cultures that endorse hypersexualization are the *same* thing. Both define female sexuality by how it relates to the male gaze. In both cases the female body exists as an ornament either to be kept carefully hidden or put on display. Neither is an empowering feminist achievement.
Four servicewomen, a captain in the Marine Corps Reserves, a first lieutenant in the Marines, a staff sergeant in the Army Reserves and a major in the National Guard filed suit against the Pentagon today (Tuesday, Nov. 27th) challenging the Combat Exclusion Policy that prevents women from serving in ground combat. The ACLU is representing the four servicemembers and is joined by the excellent advocacy group Servicewomen’s Action Network in Hegar, et. al. v. Panetta. The four, all of whom are Iraq or Afghanistan veterans, two of whom are Purple Heart recipients, filed suit today in US District Court in San Francisco.
The full complaint is available here.
I have had a considerable amount to say about the Combat Exclusion Policy and its harmful, sexist and outdated reasonings previously, and given today’s news, expect more blogging!
Photo: Female Marines in Marja. Credit: Cpl. Marionne T. Mangrum.
The idea that sameness is necessary for equality is ridiculous and wrong.
You don’t need to be exactly like someone else to deserve to be treated fairly.
That would be like, if Ryan Lochte wanted to steal my car, and the judge was like, “well, Mr. Lochte, I feel that your contribution to society is much greater than Dani’s, so enjoy your new Honda Civic.”
Or if a doctor beats up a homeless person and everyone was like, “I mean, the doctor just has a different set of talents from that homeless person. This sort of thing is expected.”
So arguments that are like, “Men are naturally physically stronger than women,” or “women are just better nurturers” are bullshit excuses for treating men and women differently. Even if they WERE the result of biological differences and not socialization (which they aren’t), they would not be legitimate reasons for unequal treatment.
Let me know if this is unclear.